WHAT DON'T YOU WANT?

The contrasts that we so often resist in our lives (those things that we do not like, those things that we do not want, those qualities that we reject in others) are emotional barometers of that which we truly desire.

In my years of experience coaching individuals, I have found that it is difficult for most people to speak with clarity and conviction about what they want. It is a simple victory, however, when you ask someone to speak about what they DO NOT want. Many people can go on for hours if simply given an invitation! This is important information if it is used effectively.

Let's say that you are seeking the perfect job. You may have no (conscious) idea of what you want to do, but I am willing to bet that you will have no problem describing the job that you do NOT want. Well, why not begin with what you know? Make a list of all of the things that you do not want in a job--the environment, the people, the hours, the types of duties, the pay, etc. Be as detailed as possible. Once you have made your list, go back. For each line item, ask your self, "if I don't want this, what do I want?" Create a list of opposites.

This exercise may not provide you with all of the answers, but it will inspire your unconscious desires to step forward. You will begin to attract the things that you desire.

success or sabotage? too often, we wait for greater clarity before beginning to create the life of our dreams. remember: not making a choice is a choice! be mindful not to get bogged down with perfection. simply allow yourself to dream and to become.

is this going to be an incredible day? if you don't know the answer, list all of the things that make a day "horrible" to you. now, what is the opposite? what are some steps (however small) that you may take to create that kind of day today?

"In the seeing of who you are not, the reality of who you are emerges by itself."--Eckhart Tolle

Mark Ward
nu*design LLC

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